Dear Dr. Patty Ann,I am a single 39 year old man that has been divorced for 5 years now. I was married for 13 years and truthfully my ex-wife was the only long term relationship I had as we were married young. It was the “do the chivalrous thing because you’re pregnant wedding.”
Since the divorce I have dated regularly over the last 3 years, but hadn’t really found a woman that stopped me in my tracks until now.I recently started dating a woman 10 years younger than me who is not only beautiful, but one of the most intriguing and enjoyable women I’ve ever been around. We’ve known each other casually for about 6 months, but recently have gone on 2 dates that have gone great, even by her admission.Truth be told I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to do. I have no frame of reference to speak of where I have gone home after 2 dates wondering what is happening to me. Can you give me some advice on how I to get a relationship off to a good start if I really don’t know how? I don’t want to pressure her, I really want to pursue her, but not sure how to do it. How do I let her know that I’m really interested in her, finding out what makes her tick and hopefully letting it grow into something more without making her uncomfortable?Thanks Doc, any help for the relationship challenged man?– Relationship Rookie
Dear Relationship Rookie,
Thank you for reaching out to me. You are working overtime thinking over this new relationship with this woman. You are both adults — the age gap shrinks as we all age so unless she wants children and you don’t – don’t worry about the age difference.
The best way to get this “relationship off the ground” is for you to “get into” the relationship. Call her up and ask her to go out on another date – and take it from there. Develop this relationship as if you would develop a friendship and take it from there.
Good luck – and let me know how it turns out!