Dear Dr. Patty Ann,
About a year ago my husband fixed my best friend’s car (he owns his own business) and charged her about $1500 (it was a big job). She went in to pick up her car and gave him $400 toward it saying she would never not pay him because of our friendship. Well 2 wks later when we were curious she said the car was not fixed. And they had to take it elsewhere. They NEVER said a word about anything like this til then. So long story short we quit speaking for a few months and now are trying to be friends again. I was telling a friend how my bf and I had to kind of keep our friendship away from my husband and she heard about it. She knew that I wouldn’t tell him even tho she knew I was talking to him. Well now she’s mad even tho I have apologized for telling someone. Now she’s trying to guilt me into starting a fight with my husband and shoving our friendship down his throat. My husband doesn’t even want her in our house. What do I do?
– Betrayed in Illinois
Thanks for reaching out to me! Your loyalty – first and foremost needs to be with your husband! Tell him you started speaking to your girlfriend and that you regret going behind his back!